Our mind can set traps for us which can create feelings of anxiety and work against us. Knowing which thoughts and feelings impact us, and create barriers to the things we want to achieve in our lives, is the beginning of keeping it under control and preventing them impacting on the way we live in the outside world.
There are 3 common mindset traps
Inner critic –Negative self talk
“I can’t believe they did not call me back for that job interview – I will never get a job this summer”
“I am such an idiot”
“Why should I bother ”
A strategy to break this cycle is to acknowledge this inner voice and challenge it. For example, when the voice says I am such an idiot, yell back at it , you are a liar, I am smart and back it up with evidence. Tell yourself all about your good qualities such as I am a good friend, I am a loving wife etc.
A shadow is a darker aspect of ourselves that we avoid dismiss or hide. They are usually something about ourselves we don’t like.
They fall into 3 categories
This can be events that have happened but in your mind the event is exaggerated.
I don’t remember when I decided being successful would mean people would not want to associate with me. As I am a very social person and did not want this to happen, I would down play my success and this caused inner conflict as I was not being authentic to myself.
I heard of Mindfulness many years ago when it wasn’t mentioned very often, now you hear it everywhere.
So what does it mean:
The most wonderful situation is to be mindfully happy with all areas of your life – health relationships with parents and friends school or job.
How can we be at this peaceful happy state?
We don’t feel happy all the time and that’s ok –
But if we know how to do it we are off to a great start to find a peaceful state
Here are some ideas
I am now a qualified coach in the areas of creating balance in your life Mastering the flow of Yin and Yang) dealing with anxiety( strategies to change that annoying voice in your head ,your inner critic) and overcoming fear: where does your fear come from?
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